I was reading Holly's blog, and her post about Anchor Habits really stuck with me. Anchor habits are those habits that we develop that keep us steady and feeling secured, and as a creature of habit in general this totally made sense! I've never been one to have any 'vices', so I guess these are what keep me going. Plus. this was further proven when I looked back at a Day In The Life post that I did and I pretty much have the same anchors two years later.
Daily, it is an absolute must to start my day with coffee while blogging, I have to follow the exact same face wash routine, and I either workout or find some way to be active each day.
Financially, I balance our accounts at least once a month and adjusting our budget really makes me feel at peace. I've blogged about my budget obsession, so of course this is an anchor.
Marital-ly, isn't a word, but you know what I mean. Most of these could fall in the 'Daily' category, but their significance falls here. I text Will "Morning lover" every morning without fail, we have dinner together at the dinner table without distractions every night, we put away social media while we cuddle before bed, and I always go to bed with him. Even if I stay up to blog, watch tv, or get up after he goes to sleep to work on something I always try to be there as he goes to sleep. Add in date nights, and you have the anchors that really form our relationship.
Now I know things are going to change drastically here in the near future, but I will still love my coffee even if I have to drink it cold, budgeting will be even more important to me, and I hope with all my heart that we can maintain the habits that Will and I share after Charlie comes. It's strange to think about how much things are about to change, but I'm looking forward to creating new habits that include her. What are your Anchor Habits?
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Love this! I have to eat breakfast every single day and I do a budget calendar every month.
I haven't' heard of anchors but I am using dailies now and I love it. Having a routine that fulfills me and my life is something I really enjoy.
I have coffee, do yoga and read blogs in the morning too and it makes me feel great to get so much accomplished before work.
Love your habits! You will totally be able to keep them after she arrives, there may just be an adjustment period for the first few months... which is TOTALLY normal!!
One anchor habit that saved my sanity was creating a bed time routine the first day we brought Mia home! It's changed and evolved with Mia's growth but I kid you not when I say it saved my sanity. When she was newborn I would feed her, bathe her (Eric did this when he was home from work), lotion etc, feed her again (top her off, ha ha!) then put her down. Now we bathe her, read her a story, sing a couple songs, pray (all in the rocking chair) then tuck her in while singing a couple more songs. At first the night time routine was more of an unwinding thing for me because I knew I would be able to catch some sleep as soon as Mia went down, but now it's totally unwinding for Mia as she knows that bed time is coming and it's time to simma' down :) We do it the same time every night, and I plan on incorporating this into baby brother's schedule when he arrives!
There are definitely things that I do on a daily basis that rarely change. It's nice to have constants like that. :)
I loved getting a glimpse of some of the things that make you more at ease - something I am trying to do is to develop better routines!
oh i've never really thought of this before!!! so fun. i have to have caffeine in the morning before i do ANYTHING else!
I haven't thought about this before, but I am a HUGE creature of habit. If I do my morning routine out of order, it throws my whole day off. I do the same, I go to bed at the same time as my husband every night. Even if I'm not sleeping, we go to bed at the same time. We just need to work on more date nights. Those are hard once you have kids, but it just means if it's important to you, you work harder to make them happen.
I have a post like this in draft - I'm a huge creature of habit. I never thought of how these things anchor me. I like it!
Wow, you sure are beautiful first thing in the morning. I look like something that shouldn't come out from underneath a bridge. Ha, ha!
We all have our habits & I follow mine pretty strictly. If I'm forced to do something out of the norm, I pretty much lose my shit for a good hour or so. Tee hee!
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My thing is coffee in the morning too (usually with peanut butter toast. Gotta do it. It's how I start my day and I like my routines.
Mine are similar! Coffee is a must, and while I used to blog more consistently I'm trying to get back into it. I also go to bed with TJ every night and usually end up sneaking out after he's asleep.
Love this. I think you will be able to manage those. I'd say my biggest anchor habit is cleaning up before I go to bed. If nothing else the living room toys have to be put away before I can relax for bed.
Love this. I think you will be able to manage those. I'd say my biggest anchor habit is cleaning up before I go to bed. If nothing else the living room toys have to be put away before I can relax for bed.
You know, Christopher texts me once a day with "Hello, my love. How is your day?" I don't think much about it because it's just so part of our every day, but when I saw you mentioned that it made me realize how much I love that he checks in on me every day. I mean, we always take time to talk at night (if we're home then we eat dinner at the table together and talk and if we're out then we talk in the car on the way to wherever we're going). And we are like you guys too in going to bed together. I love that. It's little things that make you feel so secure. Love this post!
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